Do we see our rejected parents in our partners?
Have you ever noticed that the behavior which annoys you the most about your partner is actually a reflection of one of your parent? And to be more specific, it is the reflection of that parent whom we reject from within. May be on the face of it, on a superficial basis it looks like you love that parent, but deep inside on a subconscious level, you are actually resenting or rejecting that parent. Now, the question is why and how does a child accept one parent blindly with inheriting all their beliefs and emotions as well as behavioral traits, whereas one parent is rejected and resented deep within? What is it within us which makes us reject our parents?
There are numerous reasons for this situation to occur. For example, a wife is rejecting her husband will have one of her children rejecting her as a compensation for the other parent. Other reason could be when the lineage of the particular sex rejecting the opposite sex. For example, I once had a case where the man rejected his mother and then his wife and lately his daughter also. When the constellation was done for this, it came out that in the 8th generation, there was a lady who tricked a man of the family into ill-addictions which destroyed the family totally. From there on, a belief was built that women betray. Once this was released, he could actually feel that all the anger he had over the years towards the female sex was not actually his own anger. This is how we reject our parents.
Now, coming back to our partners, if we reject one of our parents, then we are likely to look for partners who replicate the rejected parent completely. Hence, to find some peace in the relationship first look out for the rejected parent qualities and work on them to settle all the unfinished business with them. By doing so, either your relationship will see a shift or if this was the only reason of the relationship and it is now served, then either you will move out of the relationship or it will move into a different dimension altogether.
So, the next time you are angry on your partner, check out whether he/she is replicating the rejected parent’s behavior or there is some unfinished business you need to complete with them. This will surely bring in new awareness in your space.
It is often said that a daughter is a father’s girl and a son is a mother’s boy. But the truth according to the systemic consciousness is that a daughter has to feel the nurturing of her mother until her life and likewise a son needs to feel the nurturing of his father. When a daughter rejects her mother or is distant from her, she will experience those qualities she has rejected in her partner and likewise if a son is rejecting his father, he will not be able to grow and shoulder responsibilities expected out of a man.
We need to understand and accept that no one can ever be 100% ideal because we all have inherited the qualities from our family’s energy field. If it did not start with us, does not mean it cannot end here. In fact, bringing this awareness into our consciousness and accepting our parents for what they are will liberate us from the bandages which are subconsciously playing. Placing our parents with love in our hearts enables us to accept ourselves too. Whenever we reject a parent, we are actually rejecting a part of us unconsciously. Hence, bringing this rejection into our consciousness and accepting them unconditionally will open new doorways to living a fulfilling life. Of course, there are many other issues which need to be looked into, but this is the basic thumb rule to let a shift in energy take place.
Case Study: Pradeep 34 years old always rejected his father as he was very irresponsible towards the needs of the family. He was resenting his father right from his childhood. He disregarded him for all the anger and frustration he vented on Pradeep and his mother. As Pradeep grew up, he always struggled in his career. Even after putting in several efforts, there was always a very slow progress or no progress at all.
Resolution: Modality used was Family Constellations and as Pradeep was not comfortable doing it in a group with representatives, we decided to do it on a one to one basis. In the family field, the energies of his father were invoked. And it came up that his father was actually longing for his love. Pradeep first released all his anger and frustration towards his father. Then, he became more open and accepting towards his father’s love. This made him feel instantly lighter on his shoulders and back area as this is place where he was storing all the rejection towards his father.
The moment this happened he broke down completely and suddenly all the love for his father just came up. In the end, he found more relief towards his relationship with his father. About a month later, he walked in to inform that now his business was doing better than before and also he was able to communicate with his father compassionately.
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Have you ever noticed certain vibrations putting you into a trance like state? Or perhaps, some music notes making you feel completely relaxed. Each of us resonates to some or the other vibration and then suddenly there is light inside your heart. This is where we feel at home. Before we were even conceived by our mother, there was a specific vibration on which our soul was vibrating. It is the same vibration one feels in that music at the soul level. Identifying this vibration can bring about transformational changes in your mind, body and spirit. It will uncover a lot of things you planned to do before taking birth. This vibration will re-unite and re-direct you to your soul purpose.
I once read an article on an African tribe where women who wish to conceive meditate under a tree for a couple of days until they get the song of that soul whom they will be birthing. Once she receives that song, she recites the same to the man who will be fathering the child and while making physical relations they recite that song. They consider this ritual to be a welcome for the soul to be conceived. This same song is given by the mother to the ladies going to be helping her deliver the child and these ladies sing it during delivery. This makes the delivery very easy and the child feels welcomed and happy. Even once the child grows and falls ill, the same song is used to revitalise his core energy. It is also believed that once this child grows up and commits any crime or does any wrong doing, instead of punishing him/her, people form a circle around him and sing the same song. This makes the person realize his mistake and brings in a huge transformation. Even on his last journey in the current lifetime the same song is sung for his easy cross-over.
I feel this is definitely true as certain vibrations do bring in a huge transformation in our thoughts instantly. All we need to do right now is – identify our vibration, identify the song of our soul, our life. You need to turn inwards for this beautiful re-union with your soul and its purpose.