Do we see our rejected parents in our partners?
Have you ever noticed that the behavior which annoys you the most about your partner is actually a reflection of one of your parent? And to be more specific, it is the reflection of that parent whom we reject from within. May be on the face of it, on a superficial basis it looks like you love that parent, but deep inside on a subconscious level, you are actually resenting or rejecting that parent. Now, the question is why and how does a child accept one parent blindly with inheriting all their beliefs and emotions as well as behavioral traits, whereas one parent is rejected and resented deep within? What is it within us which makes us reject our parents?
There are numerous reasons for this situation to occur. For example, a wife is rejecting her husband will have one of her children rejecting her as a compensation for the other parent. Other reason could be when the lineage of the particular sex rejecting the opposite sex. For example, I once had a case where the man rejected his mother and then his wife and lately his daughter also. When the constellation was done for this, it came out that in the 8th generation, there was a lady who tricked a man of the family into ill-addictions which destroyed the family totally. From there on, a belief was built that women betray. Once this was released, he could actually feel that all the anger he had over the years towards the female sex was not actually his own anger. This is how we reject our parents.
Now, coming back to our partners, if we reject one of our parents, then we are likely to look for partners who replicate the rejected parent completely. Hence, to find some peace in the relationship first look out for the rejected parent qualities and work on them to settle all the unfinished business with them. By doing so, either your relationship will see a shift or if this was the only reason of the relationship and it is now served, then either you will move out of the relationship or it will move into a different dimension altogether.
So, the next time you are angry on your partner, check out whether he/she is replicating the rejected parent’s behavior or there is some unfinished business you need to complete with them. This will surely bring in new awareness in your space.